3 Tips To Help You And Your Ex Create An Effective Co-Parenting Plan
Getting divorced can be a difficult thing to experience – especially if there are kids involved. Everyone hears about the horror stories involving heated child custody battles in the court room. These are legal battles that incur a lot of legal fees for both parties involved. It doesn’t have to be that way. More and more parents are opting instead to sit down with a mediator in order to create a co-parenting plan. Here are three tips to help you and your ex create an effective co-parenting plan for your children.
1. Check the emotional baggage at the door.
The point of sitting down with a mediator is so you can have a rational and logical discussion with your ex about the co-parenting of your children. This can’t be done if you allow hurt feelings from the past to rear their ugly head during the meeting. You can vent to friends and family before and after the meeting or even write about how you feel in a journal or a blog – however, you must not take those emotions into that room. The emotional baggage will not help you come up with a good co-parenting plan and it definitely won’t help the children.
2. Be willing to compromise.
If your ex wants to see the children as much as possible, don’t do everything you can to stop them from doing it. That means you both will need to learn to compromise on certain things, especially when it comes to holidays. Together with the mediator, you both need to figure out what would work best for everyone on holidays. You can alternate who gets the kids each holiday or you two can split the days – it’s about what is feasible for the both of you and not what works best for just one party.
3. Allow the children to be involved.
If your children are over 10 years of age, you should consider allowing them to help with some aspects of the co-parenting plan. You can ask them how often they would like to spend with each of you and take it into consideration when finalizing the terms of the plan. Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to bring your children to the meeting with you. As a matter of fact, it would be best not to bring them to the meeting so you can both concentrate on getting the co-parenting plan completed and signed.
If you keep these tips in mind, there is no reason why you and your ex can’t have an amicable meeting with a mediator to get an effective co-parenting plan in place. The children are what is important, so always focus on what will benefit them and not what is best for either one of you. Contact local family lawyers like those from Law Offices Of Thomas M Britt, PC for more information.